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What are a parent's right regarding an abusive teen? My son (age 15, ht: 6 ft, wt: approx 230) has become sexually active, with multiple partners (at the same time) within the past five days. He told me he had lost his virginity and then admitted to not using protection despite the fact that I have provided him with condoms after "the talk" about the realities of sex. I'm a realistic mother and know that the likelihood of him waiting is null. After hearing this (multiple partners, unprotected) I laid into him about the dangers to his health and the dangers of bringing a life into the world.
He is hands down the most irresponsible 15 year old you will ever meet. Think overgrown toddler. Anyway, after I told him I didn't like him being involved basically in orgies and I wasn't providing any more rides to his "friends" house, he called me a "*****!" and shot me the finger, shattered a glass all over the kitchen floor and stormed out of the house yelling for the whole neighborhood to hear "F**k you you, f**king *****!" He said a few more of the like words after he came home. I became afraid for my own and my two smaller guyren's safety. What are my rights as a parent? I know he is my responsibility but I don't trust him not to hurt me physically. I can't afford a military school or other type placement which he probably needs at this point. He's out of my control. I can't live like this with him though! I would be grateful for any advice from other parents of belligerent teens out there. | First,
at 15 he should be playing basketball outside or playing with hot wheels, not womens "between the legs"
Ground him, take away all his things.
Call the police and tell him you are scared for you and his safty, and he will be placed in jail for the night or two nights or so on.
We did that on my sister before. | Parents, what would you do in this situation? Just curious for other opinions? My mom asked me for my advice the other day (wow) and I didn't really know what to tell her. My sister who is 17 has really, really bad friends. Drugs, sex, alcohol, parties, and very naive parents.
Homecoming night, word got out that one of her friend's boyfriends were having a "Co-ed" sleepover. All these teens told their parents lies and said they were somewhere else, and they all went to the sleepover. It ended up being a wild, drunk sex orgy at this boy's house.
My sister was already home at this point. She knew about all of it (from the magical wonders of her friends drunk texting) , and told our mom about it. My mom knows ALL the parents of the guys that went.
And she asked me this, "What do I do? I know all the parents of these guys and they have NO idea what happened. Should I tell them?" My mom was completely appalled and shocked but when she told me, I really wasn't that surprised about it. These are teenagers remember. My dad's first reaction to it was, "Well, someone's going to be pregnant tonight." and he left it at that.
At first I didn't really know what to say. It really isn't her business right? My sister didn't go to the sleepover so it really isn't affecting her or my mom in any way, except for the fact that these people are still her friends.
Usually I would take the route, "It's their business just let them do what they're gonna do and they'll have to deal with the consequences later." But I'm not the mother of a teenager yet. I know I would have a hard time with this if it were my daughter with these horrible friends.
So what would you have done in this situation? I know I would be totally embarassed if someone came up to me and told me my daughter was at a drunk sex party and lied to me about it.
I don't really look forward to the teen years at ALL. At least I have 12 more years to prepare for it! ;) | I am the parent of a teenager, and a 20 year old college student. The parent network is how we find out stuff about our guys, because heaven knows THEY don't tell us. As a parent, I depend on other parents letting me know the stuff that I don't know about. I'm just thankful I have good teens who have never really gotten involved with alcohol and/or drugs.
In this situation, I would call the other parents of the other guys involved. Since your mom knows these guys parents, it will be easier to bring this up. This is why you as a parent become friends with your guys friends parents--it's how you check up on them. I would just say something to the effect of "Sarah told me something interesting that the rest of the guys did the other night..." and then tell them what I knew. At that point, I'd let the parents handle it. Because, they're not my guys. But my guy would then have to physically knock me unconscious to hang out with those guys in the future. ;)
I just look at it this way, if it were MY guy involved in the drunken orgy, I'd certainly want another parent care enough about my guy to let me know about it. Obviously these guys need some guidance here--my daughter had a friend DIE of alcohol poisoning when they were in 9th grade. These guys need to be made aware of the risks they're taking here. And it's parents jobs to do it.
Good luck to you, and your mom!!! | My dad watches kinky porn! (Embarrased, ashamed, scared. Help please!)? About a year ago, my dad was on his computer one time and I walked in to see a pornographic picture on his screen. He quickly exited out and said "spam email", then changed the subject. At first I was concerned, then I was able to disregard it, as I was only 13 and he did get a hell of a lot of spam email from various websites.
Today, however, it got a whole lot worse. Dad has been out of the house for a few hours, and I wanted to check my Facebook (my computer is broken at the moment.) He's totally fine with me using his laptop, so I did. Onscreen was the file in which he stores all of his passwords and such (again, he has no problem with me looking at this file.)
Unfortunately, though, it was scrolled to a section listing several kinky porn websites that he's subscribed to and their passwords...apparently for over $50 a month!
This includes "cumshots", "orgies", and TEEN PORN (18+, but girls that look really young.)
At the moment I'm feeling really ashamed and embarrased. I understand that it's normal for guys to look at porn, but my 51 year old church-going firefighter/ambulance driver, charity working daddy? Looking at porn of teenage girls? (that makes me really uncomfortable...) He raised me better than that, and I'd expect better of him.
Any tips for how to deal with it?
I don't know how I'm going to be able to look at him when he gets home... | How do you think you were conceived?
People watch porn to warm up, then have sex. Time to learn these things now honey. | Is my mom too over protective/paranoid? First of all, I’m 16 almost 17. Okay, so about a week ago, I went to a frozen yogurt place with four of my friends. Nate’s uncle drove me, Nate and Josh there, then we met up with two of my other good friends, Marly and Bri. After we ate our yogurt, we all planned on letting Marly, our 18 year old friend, drive us all home. Me and Nate assumed that since she owns a van, that it would have at least 2 sets up fount and 3 sets in the back, right? Well, I guess we were wrong; there were only two sets in the back so I decided that I could just sit in the in closed trunk (without a seatbelt), for the ride home, which is about 2-3 miles drive to my house. Also because it’s fun to be rebellious sometimes. We did that because Nate’s uncle had already left since we told him it was okay to leave. Admittedly it was dark, and we are all teenagers, but none of us are the wild type to majorly distract her driving abilities.
When my mom found out, she didn’t flip but she didn’t want Marly driving me again, possibly until indefinitely, but her “talk” with her might change her mind if Marly acted all responsible about it or something. Then she wanted to talk to her dad about it because she still lives with her father. Annnd, she wanted to talk to, almost, all of the other teen’s mom/dad about it because she felt like “they should know about it too”. My mom genuinely thinks that I put myself in major danger, acting like I seriously could have died that day. Yeah, I know I could have, but considering I like never do anything like that, is she over reacting? My best friend’s mom (Nate’s mom) warned her son not to do it again or else she wouldn’t let Marly drive him again. I wouldn’t have minded if my mom gave Marly a warning, but she’s acting like got high with them or that discovered the wonders of best friend orgies. -_-‘
It’s just annoying because I don’t do wild teenage rebellion like ever, but she’s grilling me over with the fact that I could have died that day? If I did that stuff a lot, yeah I should be worried, but I don’t! | | Yes you could have died. But she's overracting because the chances are low, and also, parents are there to listen to your stupidities, they can tell you the risk of it, but they can't really forbid you to do it again... | Why are morals, family values and religion still important to Americans? Why is that they have family dinners and spend birthdays, Christmas etc together?
Here in the UK family values are in major decline; hardly any families eat together and even if you did say you were going home for dinner with your family you would be laughed at.
88% of the population is atheist; if you are found out to be a believer you will be mocked.
No one has morals; teens are always partying in streets, destroying houses, getting drunk, getting high and having orgies. We laugh at America's 1950's views.
Also we don't go to the cinemas with our parents like American teens do; why are old fashioned views still accepted in the USA? | wow, it's bad to care about you're family.
they only
feed you
shelter you
clothe you
care for you
birthed you
you talk about getting drunk, but you also alcohol should be banned on your junk food rant.
and trust me, i can drink any of your british teens under the table no problem.
so can just about all my friends.
ya'll probably drink a 12 pack each and are then like "Oh my God, I'm so drunk right now"
wow.
destroying houses--- What ever happened to respect of other peoples property. Respect has NOTHING to do with morals, family values, or religion.
getting drunk- That's OK, but you gotta be careful
getting high--- that's OK, not really my thing though
having orgies--- yeah, i want to f*ck a girl with some dude cradling my balls. Sounds great.
Go to cinemas with parents- I do sometimes, but not all the time. Mostly I don't even go to movies | Guy endangerment?!!? parties, wild sex two little girls, LOTS of drugs, alcohol, violence? My sister jess and I have never been more than 15 minutes away from eachother in my whole 15 years of life. She is 24.
When she was 17 she had a very bad drug problem and got pregnant with this guy's baby. And quit drugs. Then she found a man kris (who was one year younger., (who so many people think is a piece of ****.. you will see why) And they had another baby when she was 20. The both have always been chain smokers to the extreme (at least two packs a day for both of them) When she was almost 21 she got in a huge car accident and broke her back, ribs, and collapsed her lung. She had a long healing process, but she is okay now. The only problem is she is extremly addicted to methadone. Taking as many as she can get. (she recently found out she was even allergic to it but that doesnt stop her)
She is fully recovered now, and her and her husband are both extremly addicted to Methadone,, (HE TAKES HER PERSCRIPTION!! they share because she gets such a massive amount) But the thing is. HE gets to hold HER meds and do whatever he damn well pleases with them. She has to beg him to give her some. He is greedy and takes more than he is supposed to and he gives them away for free to all of his friends.
The recently moved away from me:( They live an hour and a half away. In a huge house. The problem is, they are housing 3 teenagers who have parties every night plus all the people that come over just to hang out and "crash" and stay with them for a while. THAT HOUSE IS CRAZY!!! a bunch of 16-19 year old teens. Running around, smoking weed, stealing stuff from stores like cough medicine to get messed up on. kris and jess were out of meds one day and so they had to find something to improvise. So they bought Heroin Based Extacy! Kris took like 4-7 a day for 2 or so weeks STRAIGHT and my sister took less, but still, she was doing it!! and kris got addicted to the heroin for a while (he still buys them) and kris would just buy them with the money he could be using on his two guyren (6 year old (who doesnt go to school!!!) and a 3 year old!!) And he just passes them out for free to the people who are over at the house at the time!
My sister did Cough medicine last time I was there and I had to wake up at 3 AM because i was scared she wouldnt be breathing with all the stuff she is on!!
Now if thats not bad enough, the have recently turned into alcoholics. They get plastered EVERY day, and all day long! from like 3- whenever they pass out. With all those teenagers! So they are on their strong *** meds and tons of alcohol.
Ok still not the worst part... EVERYONE IN THAT HOUSE CHEATS ON EACHOTHER SO ITS DRAMA 24/7!!! They all have sex with everyone, it doesnt matter who it is! they have Orgies (which are 2-10 people having sex together) kris has sex with guys!!! and gives and gets b-j's from other guys!! and jessica is too ****** up to care! Seriously jess has f*cked like 2 other girls and like 6 other guys, they make out with whoever walks through the door! The little girls recently got kicked out of their own room and have to sleep on a couch.
The sad thing is They get SO messed up on all these thing, at once most of the time, they do more than 3 things at once. And their guys cant even wake up their own parents in the morning. and they fall asleep with cigarettes and burn EVERYTHING. their house is trashed!!
i dont know what to DO!!! they are so addicted, my sister was supposed to come visit me monday and every days she has said the same thing!!! either she cant make it, or she got too messed up to leave...
PLEASE give me some suggestions!!!! My sister is overly addicted and too crazy and its scaring me, they also have fight nights where 2 of the teenagers at a time go at eachother and beat eachother up. There is blood on the floor, what are the little girls supposed to think?
The teenagers that live and or crash there eat all the food, and everyone is too lazy to make food, i end up going over there and washing, stacks like you wouldnt believe of dishes and my neices always complane of being hungry!
SUGGESTIONS!? | | Ariah, I know you are scared but the best thing you can do for your sister and her guyren is to call police and guy protective services..it will save your sister and her guys life...your sister could overdose and then your nieces or nephews will end up with the dad and you may never see them again...if you love them you will call the police and cps...sometimes cps will not take the guys out of the home and they end up dead so you might want to call the police...then maybe your sister can get help but you might end up with the guys if she and her husband get hauled in..looks like she needs to get away from the trash husband of hers....you need to step in honey at least for the guys sakes...that is if you love them .....find the strenght for yourself and help those guys and your sister |
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